I am currently listening to Ps Joseph Prince’s sermon on ‘Finding the Right Partner‘. I think it is practically another confirmation from God upon my previous thinking.
I bet many still remember about my dispute on the holding hands part between me and TJ. In the post of LOVE, God revealed Himself to me in Joshua Harris’ book about thanking your man if he ever respect you or tell you his struggles. For example, Joshua mentioned that he told Shannon about his struggles when she is wearing certain short shorts and she quickly put them away. That is the part which I felt God was talking to me because TJ did the same thing. For this, I know and recalled that men somehow are weak. Especially in this area and we should be guarding them as much they are guarding ours. Even though Joshua has a example guidelines of his and Shannon written in the book, Boy Meets Girl, which includes holding hands (which I initially doubt since they can, why can’t we) I am ok with it when this post was written previously. Because every single person’s love life is different which includes their views.
Ps. Prince was mentioning about pro-long courtship in his second part of the sermon and he mentioned about purity. He says it is normal to hold hands, having little pecks but nobody have the right to give a clear cut where to stop. What is more if it is a long courtship. You may be holding hands after second or third date, then your guy is freakily happy and say “That’s it. We will stop here.” However, then he wants more. He will give pecks on cheeks, then later little pecks on lips. If it is a 5-year courtship, where will you be? Where will be the excitement left for marriage?
When I was listening to it minutes ago, I was like, “Wow! God, it seems like You are blessing me with what I am hearing and what I was convicted when You last spoke to me. No doubt, I still wish I could just at least hold hands like any other couples as I stroll along the street. But today, I wanna thank You that I gave even that minor desire to You on that day.” And “at least” will never stop there once you have started on it.
I guess somehow I was still rather shy/embarass to say the real feeling about this when someone else asked, “How come so long still not even in the stage of holding hands?” I answered that person, “I don’t know. Ask him (TJ).” God, today I ask of Your boldness to speak to me. I think I was fearful, fearful of what the world is today. Yes, holding hands is ok. Nobody condemned it is wrong, just me and TJ’s principles for the time being and I was afraid people will condemn me instead with such “conservative” mind. I was angry and frust over it earlier when me and him were at this topic, but after the Lord revealed to me, I understand His will for both of us.
This is just something I wanna share for today. I would post up the first part sermon (out of five) in my BoxNet sharing widget on the bottom right-hand corner (14 files). Feel free to download and let God bless your relationship or your search of your life partner! :)
